I'm an ex-nuclear engineer and helicopter pilot turned mom and business owner. If you're looking for perfection, you won't find it here....but if you're looking for the real behind the scenes of how to be an entrepreneur AND a mom, I hope that what I share will make you feel a little less alone (and a little more empowered to kick ass in business).
Until this year, I have seriously struggled with having thin, fine, and oily hair – and in my quest to solve those issues I have learned so much that I want to share with you, specifically around how to fix oily hair! I’ve always struggled with too much oil/grease and had to wash my hair every single day my entire life, but as an adult (and since having kids), I started noticing that it was getting worse and worse. For the past few years, by around 4pm everyday, my hair would be so oily that it almost looked wet at the roots. Gross, I know, but it’s true! If I was going somewhere in the evening, I would usually either have to take a second shower, or throw my hair up in a bun. I normally went the bun route, because who has time for 2 showers a day?! Anyway, this year I have seen a complete turnaround and I can now go at least 2 days between washes, and I don’t struggle with my hair being just flat and oily and dull anymore. Here’s what I’ve learned:
This was my biggest mistake. Many products, including shampoos, conditioners, creams, and styling products, are made with silicone and/or waxes to help your hair look or feel more shiny/smooth. The problem is that these silicones, especially, not only add sine or gloss, they also build up on your hair over time and can make it look dirty, oily, and weighed down – especially if you have fine hair that lacks volume.
Using low-quality shampoos with harsh cleansers or detergents in them will strip your scalp and hair of the oils that your body naturally produces, which prompts your body to then overproduce oil because it thinks that it doesn’t have enough. Because it’s being stripped away daily, your oil production goes into overdrive.
It’s best to use a naturally based shampoo that is customized for your hair type and infused with oils that are conditioning and good for your hair/scalp rather than harsh cleansers, and that won’t add that nasty buildup.
This was the key for me that changed everything! I know this is counter-intuitive, adding oil to oil – but normally, when your body is over producing oil – it’s because it thinks that it doesn’t have “enough” oil….so it goes into overdrive with oil production. So, adding oil will actually slow your natural oil production! I started doing overnight oil treatments on my hair, twice a week, about 10 months ago – and I noticed a significant difference in the first week, and it’s only improved from there! The key, for this to work, is to use a high quality organic oil that most closely mimics your body’s natural oils and that can actually penetrate into your hair and follicles – rather than just sitting on top. There are a bunch of different oils that are recommended for hair, but here’s one tip for you: A really great indication of a high quality oil that will fix your oily hair is actually the container it comes in. You want an oil that can actually penetrate into your hair and follicles, and so you want to avoid oils that come in plastic bottles or containers – because a good oil will always be in glass bottles – otherwise it would just seep through the plastic. That’s why essential oils come in glass bottles, so you want to have that same type of quality for the oil you put on your hair. Doing oil treatments will not only help fix your oily scalp, but it will also make sure that you hair itself and especially your ends stay hydrated and healthy, too! If you want my recommendation on the best oil for your hair – I’ll leave it at the bottom of this post!
This is a simple one, but important! When shampooing your hair, apply a small amount of shampoo to your scalp/roots and gently massage it into your scalp – and let it naturally run down the lengths of your hair. You also don’t want to skip the “repeat” step, so make sure you wash your hair twice if directed by your shampoo instructions (most high quality shampoos require two washes).
Conditioners can be very moisturizing and make your hair look more greasy or even cause excess oil production when applied to your scalp. However, don’t be afraid of a conditioner when trying to fix oily hair – using a conditioner is part of a healthy hair routine, just make sure that you’re only applying your conditioner to the lengths of your hair, not to your scalp/roots.
Dry shampoo is an excellent way to help you to go longer without washing, and absorb excess oil. It’s obviously gained a ton of popularity in recent years, especially among us moms that don’t have time to wash our hair everyday. It’s a great for a refresh after a workout, or for day 2 or 3 hair. However, there’s something really important you should know about dry shampoos, especially because they’re so common now and you can find them everywhere! Most dry shampoos are filled with really scary ingredients – so please, if there’s one thing you take away from this post, go look at the ingredients on your dry shampoo today and make sure that you’re using something that is safe. First of all, you want to avoid dry shampoos with talc in them, which is linked to cancer, so that’s a big one to look out for. But (even more scary, to me) is that many spray-can style dry shampoos actually use LPG’s (Liquid Petroleum Gas), Butane, Propane, or Isobutane as their propellant. So, if you use dry shampoo, there’s a good chance that you are actually spraying petroleum gas on your head everyday and that is not just scary – it’s super flammable!
PS. If you want to know the best specific (safe and healthy) products to fix your oily hair, I would love to learn a little more about what you’re struggling with and send you some customized recommendations. Just CLICK HERE to take my quick hair quiz and I’ll personally review your results and get back to you within 48 hours!
Last week here on the blog, I talked about having belief in yourself….and today’s post is kind of a continuation of that topic, so if you missed last week’s post you can get caught up by clicking here. Today I’m going to talk about how to identify and stop negative self talk, and I find […]
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I've always wanted to change the world. I graduated from high school when I was 16, from West Point with degrees in physics and nuclear engineering by the time I was 20, and then I became an Army officer and flew Blackhawk helicopters 7 years, and got a Master's in Aeronautics. Those years were hard, exciting, and rewarding. But I also met my husband, Rick, during that time - and we knew that the military lifestyle and deployments weren't going to work for us if we wanted to start a family...
When we left the military, I was rewarded for "setting myself up for success" with a high-paying corporate job and tons of responsibility. But I'll never forget walking into my "dream job" on the first day, looking around at the people who had been there for 20 years, and KNOWING, in my gut, that I couldn't and wouldn't be like them. I knew there had to be way more to life that working 60 hours a week for someone else, and waiting until retirement to have the freedom to travel and live life on our own terms. But we had no idea how to make it happen...
So, one night we decided to sell Rick's Jeep, we bought a bunch of camera gear, and started our very own wedding photography business! And with a lot of hard work, it grew very very fast. We soon found ourselves shooting high end weddings all over the country, running a storefront portrait studio, and coaching and teaching other photographers. From the outside, it looked AMAZING. We had done it! We had grown a wildly successful, multiple six
figure business from the ground up. But, what no one really knew was that on the inside, my first (nearly) 10 years of entrepreneurship looked more like...
100 hour work weeks. "Not right now, Mama's working!" on repeat all day every day. Telling myself that I HAD to sacrifice family time and being the mom I wanted to be in order to be successful. Feeling guilty because I didn't even really know how to be present and show up as a mom. I was obsessed with growing the business, and had zero time for anything or anyone else.
I also felt very alone. I felt like I should be thankful for what we had. I felt "less than" the other mom business owners I would follow online who seemed to do so much more than me AND still have time to make Pinterest worthy school lunches. I was unhappy and unfulfilled, despite the "success" of our business. Who and WHAT was I even working so hard for? I didn't even know anymore.
So, at the end of 2017, we decided we were going to stop pursuing a life and business that was no longer making us happy. We closed our thriving photography studio and started a new business. We started helping others do the same. We sold our house. We bought and remodeled an RV and traveled for awhile as a family. And then we found and bought our new dream home. Now, we're chasing happiness, freedom, and fulfillment in everything that we do....and I'm glad you're here to follow the rest of my imperfect journey.